I don't know if it's just my optimistic nature kicking in or what, but I have recently taken the view that you should never regret past actions. What is done is done, and you can only learn from what happened and move on. Life is far too short to be preoccupied with the past. Every life event, large or small, is a defining moment where you learn a little more about yourself. Look at relationships that have ended badly; where one person has ended up getting hurt. In situations such as those, you learn what you want and what you don't want. I always thought that I needed someone the complete opposite of myself. I thought that perhaps being with a guy who had the same intellectual interests would be stimulating, but I viewed running, hiking, and the outdoors as a personal escape that I didn't want to share with another guy. After being with someone from a completely different country for a month and a half, who doesn't speak English as a first language and who doesn't have as much of an appreciation for the rugged outdoors where there is no technology or advanced civilization, made me realize that I absolutely must be with someone who not only loves being healthy and fit through exercising daily, but who will on a whim abandon civilization for a weekend to fully embrace the great outdoors. I want to be with someone who will be by my side running a marathon, and then spend the next day lounging on the couch watching crappy TV and eating Chinese take out. I want to be with someone who will push me to my limits. As a team, we will be able to climb to the highest peak and try to tackle the greatest of the world's problems today. If we don't achieve all of those things, it doesn't matter. All that matters is that we tried. I know that Ross is the guy for me. He will push me to take on activities I have never tried before, and in turn he will let me teach him what I know. He is eager to learn about new people and new cultures, and he takes pride in adapting to new circumstances, just like me. I think having him come run the Colorado marathon with me a few months after the previous failed relationship was perfect timing. I knew what I wanted and what I didn't want, and he was it.
What I love about Ross is how much friendships and family matter to him. He's never stuck on his phone, tweeting, texting, or Facebooking when he's with other people. He genuinely cares about the loved ones in his life, and will go out of his way to help them. I really value people who nurture relationships over things, and live to experience new situations and new sensations. I mean, he encouraged Dan, Tim, and I to jump in the freezing cold Poudre river the day before our marathon along it, after driving up the twisting, narrow road to get to the start of it! He's the kind of person who I'll be able to wake up at 5 AM before work to go on a run with me, and he in turn will be kicking my ass to get out of bed as well. I feel like I've finally found my match, and I am so excited for the opportunity to get to know him in San Francisco, and to grow together. There is so much for us to explore in California, and the opportunities there are endless.
I view 3 things as the most important: Family (love), exercise, and travel. I have all of those things and couldn't be happier.
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